What is romance anyway and how does one get it. Romance is about the expression and experience of love in playful, creative and authentic ways that connect two human beings.

All true love begins with self love. You may have heard that, before we can truly love another or truly receive the love we want; we must learn to love ourselves.

What does that even mean? It doesn’t mean we need to be self absorbed or overly confident. It simply means we need to develop a genuine appreciation of what makes us special and lovable. And we also need to practise self love in our actions by looking after our physical, mental, emotional and spiritual needs.

The truth is if we don’t look after ourselves then we cannot really love our partner well.

If we haven’t filled our own love tank we have little of real substance to offer. We’ll be needy and our partners will find us draining. This is never good for romance.

Having been with my hunny for more than half my life now, that’s 16 years I feel like I’ve got a few hot tips on romance worth sharing.

One of the things I needed to do and my journal writing helped me do it early on, was to decide that I was going to take care of myself for my own sake. Self love needs to be unconditional love, which means caring for yourself for your own sake regardless of what anyone else, your partner included does or doesn’t do.

One key area that’s made a big difference to romance in our lives is that after going through a time of emotional eating and being overweight. During which time I was in essence testing my partner’s love, while neglecting myself and my needs. I decided I needed to be responsible for me and for my needs. The fact was in my fat body I felt frumpy, I felt uncomfortable and unattractive. It wasn’t at all good for romance. Even though my partner still loved me and still wanted to be affectionate, I felt bad about myself and so I couldn’t easily receive his affection and I wasn’t enjoying being me.

When I decided to get healthy for me, when I decided to take my power back, to get into action and love my body into what feels to me a more sexy shape. The way I felt about myself changed and became more positive. I became comfortable with my own sensual and sexual power and with this came the ability to better connect intimately with my hunny. This was good for romance!

While there’s lots of elements and aspects of intimate love and romance that don’t have anything to do with sex, I find sex to be an essential romance ingredient. Which means it’s important that you take the time to keep yourself feeling sexy. Sexy always starts with us and it is as much an attitude we exude as it is in our physical presence.

If we want love & romance, we need to be loving and romantic and to know without doubt we are worthy and deserving of love.

Taking the time to deepen your relationship with yourself in your journal is the perfect first step on your path to self love and romance. To learn how to get started you can purchase your copy of my Journal Gift Set here.

Stay tuned for more on how journal writing can help you experience even more romance in your life.